Boundaries. When is it okay to push? When should one give space?
Boundaries. When do you grab on tighter? When is it time to let go?
These are not easy questions to answer. Why? Because each relationship is delicate. Each is important to me as I love my people. In the end, every situation is unique and can, in the long run, affect those delicate relationships. The mere process of analyzing options to dealing with boundaries can be exhausting and, at times, overwhelming.
Often my boundaries are infringed upon, and, for the most part, I allow it, it is my own choice. This process is further complicated by who I am. I am a bringer of light. The people closest to me have cautioned me of these infringements in the past. I have always listened with an open mind and heart, but I believe that we all have the potential to be better loving people given enough time, communication and love. Call me naive, but I do. It can be exhausting if there is no energy returned. Today I am ever more aware of this and I've been reacting and growing because of it. I no longer want to own the disappointment or frustration that comes with having my boundaries crossed. I am going to own my boundaries and allow others to own their actions and choices.
These are not easy questions to answer. Why? Because each relationship is delicate. Each is important to me as I love my people. In the end, every situation is unique and can, in the long run, affect those delicate relationships. The mere process of analyzing options to dealing with boundaries can be exhausting and, at times, overwhelming.
Often my boundaries are infringed upon, and, for the most part, I allow it, it is my own choice. This process is further complicated by who I am. I am a bringer of light. The people closest to me have cautioned me of these infringements in the past. I have always listened with an open mind and heart, but I believe that we all have the potential to be better loving people given enough time, communication and love. Call me naive, but I do. It can be exhausting if there is no energy returned. Today I am ever more aware of this and I've been reacting and growing because of it. I no longer want to own the disappointment or frustration that comes with having my boundaries crossed. I am going to own my boundaries and allow others to own their actions and choices.
I know. It's a heavy moment today. It's been inspired by odd, head-scratching situations that have cropped up because of serious shifts in energy and by gentle reminders from EQ. And because of a shared crossed boundary tonight with EQ (and a subsequent discussion about it), I find myself thinking about relationship boundaries.
What I have come up with is this: I have been seriously pushing back at relationship boundaries these past couple of months because I believe I have begun to value my own boundaries with a more conscious perspective. It's partially because I have come to a point in my life where I am more aware of others absorbing my light and not mirroring it back. It's also partially EQ's fault, in a good way, because he's easily mirroring back the energy I give him. In fact, there are times where I feel I am in a deficit situation to him, instead of the role I'm more used to (and comfortable with) of being "owed". Today, I find myself questioning the silence, the lack of chase, for me and my friendship. So, instead of me chasing and trying to push and fix, as I normally do, I have decided to let go and see just what value I have in those relationships.
After all, as the saying goes:
Moments enjoying the push and pull of relationships.
Moments reasoning with oneself on life choices.
After all, as the saying goes:
If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were. ~Richard Bach
Moments enjoying the push and pull of relationships.
Moments reasoning with oneself on life choices.
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