Also (timely) shared with me today was a blog that EQ stumbled across. It fits. I had to share.
The Two Words You Need To Stop Saying
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Wednesday, October 16, 2013
Moments D541: Fuck being sad
Today I had an amazing lunch with a team mate of mine. Chica has inspired me many times over the 1.5 years that I've know her. She is simply a breath of fresh, joyful, bright air. She's also 12 years younger than I am, and yet, in many ways, her life experience has made her much more self-aware and grounded than I. Chica is simply a spitfire personality; a ball of energy. Today's lunch was just another moment with her that left me a little awestruck with the depth that she offers outside of her boisterous ways.
As a total sidebar that ties back in: Chica, strangely, she reminds me of a younger, wilder me. I was never as wild as she, but her energy and "joie de vivre" vibrates on a level that I sometimes forget lives within me. When she and I catch up, it's like slipping on an old set of boots that fit you perfectly from years of wear. Feeling her energy reminds me of a historical me.
Today's catch over lunch was an incredible moment and one that I won't soon forget. Why? Well, Chica reminded me of the bigger picture in life. It looks a bit like this:
First of all, there were screams. (Yes. Full on screams.)
Then a big deep genuine hug.
That was soon followed by a request for all the details.
Then there were tears. Tears of genuine joy.
(insert lunch and other topics here)
Followed by intermittent yelps of glee. Yes - The. Entire. Lunch. Filled with intermittent yelps.
It was, simply, awesome. It filled my heart with joy.
As we dug a little deeper into our catching up, Chica had some very mature, grounded advice: "Fuck being sad, life is too short."
It was a light bulb moment, bringing me back to something Heini has shared with me. Like pieces clicking into place, my choice became clearer.
Why? Because I know (and truly believe) that life is too short to be sad. It's why I left a content, unfulfilling marriage. It's why I work hard to make my team more efficient. It's why I dig deep and communicate (a key to deep relationships). Bottom line, this notion is very deep within me. It's why I love to live every moment. Chica captured that concisely with "Fuck being sad."
It had me thinking.
Bottom line, we all have choices. They may be limited. They may be shitty, but there is always a choice.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not all sparkles, rainbows and a bowl full of cherries. I know that sparkles get lost in the darkness and the rainbows only come after the rain. I also know that there are pits in the bowl of cherries but that won't stop me from eating them. My point? I can (and have) been swallowed into the darkness from time to time. It happens. We all find ourselves there. But sometimes, the wallowing in self-pity gets out of control and (even though the words sound harsh) as Heini gently and lovingly says, "...get over yourself." It may sound harsh, but it's true. What's the point in wallowing. Life is too short. Choices can be made to find the light: Find the tools. Build the skills. Lean on your support system.
And so, today, I'm going to stop wallowing and worrying as much as I have been. I have too much going on in my own swirling life to further burden myself with the self-pity and sadness I've been carrying with me. Bottom line: I know change is difficult and scary and can tear relationships apart, but it can also build them stronger. Perspective and digging deeper.
Today's moment was this light bulb moment with Chica over lunch which inspired a commitment to myself to move beyond the sadness that has clouded me for the past (near) week. I have too much to be thankful for and to celebrate. I have conquered some of my daemons in the past year. I have found love, and revealed depth in friendships around me. Acquaintances have surprised me and family has endlessly supported and loved me for all of me. Each remind me that my happiness is important. That I am important to them. That I am loved by them and I can safely share my light, my love and my dreams with them without guilt or judgement.
Today, Chica reminded me to dig deeper within and be more true to myself when I find sadness creeping in. I may not be able to communicate well enough to change how people interact with me, but I can certainly change how I accept and interact with others. We all have our own path to follow, and sometimes it is a dark path that lay ahead. It's simply a path I refuse to walk with so much promise and love surrounding me. It is time for me to follow the bright, sparkly, rainbow covered path for my darkness has lifted and the storms have passed.
I know that those who really love me and support me, know that I'm girl who loves to yelp and scream and enjoy life large. Not unlike my younger wilder team mate Chica.
So, my thanks to Chica for her bluntness. I needed that slap in the face today. She's right: Fuck being sad, life is too short.
Moments reflecting over one's path.
Moments realizing that a choice must be made to dance in the light.
As a total sidebar that ties back in: Chica, strangely, she reminds me of a younger, wilder me. I was never as wild as she, but her energy and "joie de vivre" vibrates on a level that I sometimes forget lives within me. When she and I catch up, it's like slipping on an old set of boots that fit you perfectly from years of wear. Feeling her energy reminds me of a historical me.
Today's catch over lunch was an incredible moment and one that I won't soon forget. Why? Well, Chica reminded me of the bigger picture in life. It looks a bit like this:
First of all, there were screams. (Yes. Full on screams.)
Then a big deep genuine hug.
That was soon followed by a request for all the details.
Then there were tears. Tears of genuine joy.
(insert lunch and other topics here)
Followed by intermittent yelps of glee. Yes - The. Entire. Lunch. Filled with intermittent yelps.
It was, simply, awesome. It filled my heart with joy.
As we dug a little deeper into our catching up, Chica had some very mature, grounded advice: "Fuck being sad, life is too short."
It was a light bulb moment, bringing me back to something Heini has shared with me. Like pieces clicking into place, my choice became clearer.
Why? Because I know (and truly believe) that life is too short to be sad. It's why I left a content, unfulfilling marriage. It's why I work hard to make my team more efficient. It's why I dig deep and communicate (a key to deep relationships). Bottom line, this notion is very deep within me. It's why I love to live every moment. Chica captured that concisely with "Fuck being sad."
It had me thinking.
Bottom line, we all have choices. They may be limited. They may be shitty, but there is always a choice.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not all sparkles, rainbows and a bowl full of cherries. I know that sparkles get lost in the darkness and the rainbows only come after the rain. I also know that there are pits in the bowl of cherries but that won't stop me from eating them. My point? I can (and have) been swallowed into the darkness from time to time. It happens. We all find ourselves there. But sometimes, the wallowing in self-pity gets out of control and (even though the words sound harsh) as Heini gently and lovingly says, "...get over yourself." It may sound harsh, but it's true. What's the point in wallowing. Life is too short. Choices can be made to find the light: Find the tools. Build the skills. Lean on your support system.
And so, today, I'm going to stop wallowing and worrying as much as I have been. I have too much going on in my own swirling life to further burden myself with the self-pity and sadness I've been carrying with me. Bottom line: I know change is difficult and scary and can tear relationships apart, but it can also build them stronger. Perspective and digging deeper.
Today's moment was this light bulb moment with Chica over lunch which inspired a commitment to myself to move beyond the sadness that has clouded me for the past (near) week. I have too much to be thankful for and to celebrate. I have conquered some of my daemons in the past year. I have found love, and revealed depth in friendships around me. Acquaintances have surprised me and family has endlessly supported and loved me for all of me. Each remind me that my happiness is important. That I am important to them. That I am loved by them and I can safely share my light, my love and my dreams with them without guilt or judgement.
Today, Chica reminded me to dig deeper within and be more true to myself when I find sadness creeping in. I may not be able to communicate well enough to change how people interact with me, but I can certainly change how I accept and interact with others. We all have our own path to follow, and sometimes it is a dark path that lay ahead. It's simply a path I refuse to walk with so much promise and love surrounding me. It is time for me to follow the bright, sparkly, rainbow covered path for my darkness has lifted and the storms have passed.
I know that those who really love me and support me, know that I'm girl who loves to yelp and scream and enjoy life large. Not unlike my younger wilder team mate Chica.
So, my thanks to Chica for her bluntness. I needed that slap in the face today. She's right: Fuck being sad, life is too short.
Moments reflecting over one's path.
Moments realizing that a choice must be made to dance in the light.
Saturday, March 9, 2013
Moments D319: Choices
Today I wasn’t feeling so hot and it was a (typical) packed day for me. On my agenda: groceries, workout, make chili, do laundry, study for my test, work a bit on my coming assignment, have dinner with a friend and then head to a house party. On a good day, I could get it all done. Today, not so much.
So I had a choice - what do I cut out? What do I “slack” on. Today, I chose to slack on the school side of things. This is not typical. Typically, I’d chose to slack off on all the other things and focus on my schooling. Today, I chose a different path. I’m not sure why I did, and I’m sure tomorrow I’ll feel very guilty for it, but for today, I’m going to bask in the light of a new path.
Why? Well one time too many I’ve given up things that I want to do in place of getting an A+ on a test. Now, I know logically I don’t NEED an A+. I’m not working hard for a scholarship or to get myself recruited out of school. But, it is my nature to push hard. I want to be the best of the best. This is something that I fight against when days like today happen.
So, I did my groceries. I made my (damn tasty!) chili. I started my laundry, started my studying and had dinner with a friend before the house party. Still a busy and productive day, but not all about school.
That will be tomorrow.
Moments to reclaim for oneself.
So I had a choice - what do I cut out? What do I “slack” on. Today, I chose to slack on the school side of things. This is not typical. Typically, I’d chose to slack off on all the other things and focus on my schooling. Today, I chose a different path. I’m not sure why I did, and I’m sure tomorrow I’ll feel very guilty for it, but for today, I’m going to bask in the light of a new path.
Why? Well one time too many I’ve given up things that I want to do in place of getting an A+ on a test. Now, I know logically I don’t NEED an A+. I’m not working hard for a scholarship or to get myself recruited out of school. But, it is my nature to push hard. I want to be the best of the best. This is something that I fight against when days like today happen.
So, I did my groceries. I made my (damn tasty!) chili. I started my laundry, started my studying and had dinner with a friend before the house party. Still a busy and productive day, but not all about school.
That will be tomorrow.
Moments to reclaim for oneself.
Saturday, May 19, 2012
Moments - D24; Black and White NOT!
There are people in the world that will insist that the world around them is full of defined things or moments. In fact some believe that their path is predestined. That answers are black or they are white.
I am not one that believes this. I celebrate the many, MANY shades of grey that surround us. I celebrate the unknown. Discussing the unknown and analyzing the same. For without shades of grey, how are we ever to know what is black and what is white?
And, for the record, while I believe we all have a purpose in life, I also believe that our path(s) chosen are not predestined. We have choice on how we find and share that purpose in life. This is the grey. Choosing a path can be grey. (read uncertain!)
It’s like having a great relationship with someone. ANYONE really. A parent. A best friend. A lover. Answers are never simply black or white - after all there are two (or more) perspectives in the mix. I believe this amplifies the many shades of grey between the extreme answers. BUT - without this grey matter I think things between people would be quite boring. There really wouldn’t be much to discuss or learn. It’s truly the grey that brings us depth of understanding another soul and what their heart holds.
So I say - “Bring on the grey. Celebrate the grey. Question the Black & White answers offered because there is often much more going on beneath the surface.”
A moment shared from deep inside my soul. Grey. Celebrate it.
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