Moments D558: Big Sis Digs Deep

After a day of volleyball, EQ and I headed into the Niagara region to spend the rest of the weekend with family.  Tonight was an anticipated evening, one where he would finally be able to spend some extended quality time with my "Big Sis" and her family.  

The first part of our night was spent just the four of us.  Shortly into dinner Big Sis' youngest daughter and her friend joined us.  The atmosphere was light and jubilant with much laughter.

As the evening wore on and the kids disappeared, the adults settled in with another glass of wine and later some Jack.  The conversation, inevitably, dug in a little deeper.  What was incredible, and the moment I want to share, is even though some of the subjects that we dug into were serious and deep, everything was coming from a place of love and support.  Serious questions were asked with a humourous tone.  Family history and secrets were shared with twinkling eyes.  With every turn in the conversation, I could see the relationship between EQ, Big Sis and her husband being built.  At times I found myself simply sitting back and watching it form.

What was most incredible was watching my Big Sis' openness.  She was open enough to go deep tonight and as the evening came to a close, I realized with a certain confidence that Bis Sis and her hubby were really enjoying EQ's company.  Tonight, I watched them fall a little in love with him.    A beautiful moment indeed and one that I can see happening again over the months to come.  A heart warming, soul fulfilling moment.

Moments digging deeper with family.

Moments building new family relationships.

Moments D470: Slipping Happy Secrets

Once in awhile there is a piece of your life that brings you such joy and happiness that you want to hold it close and not share it with too many people for one reason or another.  I very much fall into this behaviour from time to time.   This particular secret has brought me immeasurable joy, light and love into my world. I've been holding it close to me for fear that sharing the secret may jinx it.  As time passes the secret has become ever deeper a part of my life and sharing it seems a lot less scary.

And so, the secret has been slipping out slowly, bit by bit.

In my blogs from the past week, I've casually mentioned that I've fallen in love.  I know, I KNOW, that's actually a HUGE piece of information to share and I kinda just slipped it in there.  But I'm not ready to gush knowing that if I gush may never stop!  I can't do that to you dear readers!   I highlight this secret only to be able to share with you how today's moment found to me.

Today's moment came to me from a highly respected and loved co-worker.  He dropped by as he made his afternoon tea.  I know he reads my blog, and I figured he would pick up on my casual mention of love.  Sure enough, he asked me about it. There was no preamble.  He didn't even mention my blog.  With a big smile and a devious twinkle in his eye, he said,

"So, do I know him?"  Long pause.  "I'll bet I know him.  Don't I?"

All I could do was sit there and beam.  Caught.  I couldn't try to put my happy secret away even if I wanted to. My response was just as simple, with a (surely) stupid grin on my face,

"Yes, yes you know him."

We stayed like that for a moment in silence.  Smiling.  Laughing in silence.  It was a perfectly awesome moment.

And then the dam burst and I flooded him with information on my new love.  {gush}

Moments being called out.

Moments sharing a glorious secret.

Moments D448: Patience and Trust and Believing, OH MY!

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you knew there was more to the story being shared but the details weren't being share?   Where the silence is deafening and the pauses between words spoken are screaming at you?  

This very thing has bean happening to me more often recently.  I don't recall it happening near as often before in my life. Does it mean that I'm more intuitive or that I'm simply paying more attention to those around me?  The reason I can't explain, but there is no denying that these gaps exist. These days my intuition is strong and it has been bang on (for better or worse!).   The fact that my intuition is stronger than it's been in years, is a sign that I am back on the right path.   But I digress from the point of today's moment.

Sometimes those you love succumb to fear (don't we all?), but when they stop trusting (themselves or you) they stop believing that there is someone listening, that someone cares.  For the record, I will always listen.  I will always be there for those I love, no matter how dark, no matter how stormy.  I am not here just for the good times.  I'm here on a soul journey and that includes being present even in the darkest of days.

So, while I've been struggling with the silence from my loved ones, on my own, for awhile now, I've found patience.  I know I can't rush my loved ones.  When they are ready to share, I'll ask questions and dive in to support wherever I can.  

Today's moment was when my patience paid off as one of my loved ones opened up about something he's been dealing with on  his own.  The moment itself was a challenge.   The timing of the share, the seriousness of the content and worse yet, the inability to discuss further until much later in the day.  But dive into it later we did.  Now I feel stronger,  empowered with knowledge instead of weak with assumptions.   I feel in tune and in synch with next steps instead of sidelined waiting for words.  I am fully committed to ensuring that my loved one has what he needs to deal with his coming changes.  I know he felt relief after sharing.  As did I. Trust and belief in loved ones:  restored hope.  What an incredible, deep, moment for today.

I have another loved one holding back.  I send her love and light every day, willing her to open up and share.  Patience.  PATIENCE.  I am here when she is ready to trust.  I am here.  MY people, my loved ones matter.... so when they struggle,  I struggle to find solutions. When they celebrate the rain,  I dance and laugh with them.   We need not be alone in this life.

Patience and trust and believing.  

Moments where words matter.   (I suppose that's not fair.  Words always matter!)

Moments where people matter.  (ditto!)