After a very long day and a seemingly endless class, I had had enough of my day. Not that it wasn't productive, or offering up inspiring moments or an opportunity for self-reflection. No no. It was full of these things. As you can imagine, but the end of this kind of day, I found myself drained.
As tired as I was, as defeated as I felt, I had plans after class and I wasn't going to skip out. First and foremost, it's Comic Guy's birthday early next week and EQ and I are going to be away. Secondly, I really, really needed a few extra hugs.
And so, I made my way, after class to met up with EQ, Comic Guy and Archie. After a tour of Archie's new office, we made our way to the local hotel bar for shared conversation and a beverage. Before I knew it, today's moment found me as I realized I was in the middle of a male discussion on shaving practices.
Yes, that's right. Shaving one's face. Doh! I couldn't really join in on that discussion. It was highly amusing to listen to the three of them discuss the merits of their shaving practices. Shaving cream or not. Soap or not. Hot water versus warm. How to get the closest shave. And so on.
I felt like I was eavesdropping in on a locker room conversation, right at the table in the bar and I couldn't help but smile. (After all, I don't shave my face, so I really had nothing to contribute to the conversation. All I could do was listen & learn!)
Moments re-connecting with friends.
Moments realizing you are in the middle of a gender specific conversation.
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Wednesday, March 5, 2014
Wednesday, February 26, 2014
Moments D674: 30s Dance Party & Respect
Today I had an interesting lunch with a work colleague that I very much respect. He's got 23 years on me which means he has a lot of experience to offer. When he shares, I listen.
While our work lunch started with our typical ramblings of the fate of the industry and next steps for both our companies, we found ourselves veering away from that by mid-lunch. The focus became more about age differences as he was about to head out on a date this coming weekend with a woman younger than he, and I, of course, am with a man 11 years older than me. Common ground for a very personal subject.
We discussed the challenges and interesting opportunities that an age difference can bring. Everything from expanding one's perspective to misunderstandings based on those unique perspectives. It was a fantastic conversation and when I arrived back into the office, it was followed up with another brief moment of age differences.
This song came on the radio and Chica came walking into the office. Fourteen years my younger, she suddenly broke out into a dance. In the middle of the office. Rocking away. It was a 30s dance party. It brought a smile and a laugh to everyone in the office. A perfect breather after a couple of stressful days.
And that's when it all snapped into place. Respect. It's ageless. It can show up in the form of a deep philosophical discussion, or it can show up in a moment of living life large.
Moments enjoying differences of ages.
Moments appreciating that respect can be ageless.
While our work lunch started with our typical ramblings of the fate of the industry and next steps for both our companies, we found ourselves veering away from that by mid-lunch. The focus became more about age differences as he was about to head out on a date this coming weekend with a woman younger than he, and I, of course, am with a man 11 years older than me. Common ground for a very personal subject.
We discussed the challenges and interesting opportunities that an age difference can bring. Everything from expanding one's perspective to misunderstandings based on those unique perspectives. It was a fantastic conversation and when I arrived back into the office, it was followed up with another brief moment of age differences.
This song came on the radio and Chica came walking into the office. Fourteen years my younger, she suddenly broke out into a dance. In the middle of the office. Rocking away. It was a 30s dance party. It brought a smile and a laugh to everyone in the office. A perfect breather after a couple of stressful days.
And that's when it all snapped into place. Respect. It's ageless. It can show up in the form of a deep philosophical discussion, or it can show up in a moment of living life large.
Moments enjoying differences of ages.
Moments appreciating that respect can be ageless.
Friday, July 6, 2012
Moments D72; Leaning
Today’s moment comes out of a darker place than is normal for me. Even though it was actually a good day in the end, it started with insights that I was not okay with.
As I’ve gone through many changes in the last 8 months and I’ve also had to deal with some interesting (and challenging) relationships along the way. Some new, some old. As I evolve, I wonder if and when I may need to shed more of my past life. Today, after the proverbial cat was “out of the bag” with a friend of mind, I realized I was angry. More angry than I thought I was. I wondered if I was out of line with this reaction…..
I’ve been fighting to reconcile emotions and thoughts on this particular situation for some time now. I was worried that I may be missing pieces that would clear the picture. I needed a third (and fourth) party perspective. And so, I leaned. I leaned on two incredible people in my life. One who has been a light in my life (during my darkest days) and another who brings me new and interesting perspectives in life that I find enlightening.
I wanted to know their perspective on this raging scenario. What did they see? How would they feel? Interestingly they were both on the same page. And while it brought me comfort, it also brought sadness.
But this entry isn’t about the dark side of this tale. This entry is about the moment when you lean on someone and they are there for you. They may point out your missteps but support you as you self-correct. It’s that special moment when you reach out to someone and they are there.
It is just another reason why surrounding yourself with the right souls is so very important. We all have moments where we need to lean. It’s not always easy to ask for help, but when you do and when someone is there to assist, that is one of the best moments one could ever ask for!
As I’ve gone through many changes in the last 8 months and I’ve also had to deal with some interesting (and challenging) relationships along the way. Some new, some old. As I evolve, I wonder if and when I may need to shed more of my past life. Today, after the proverbial cat was “out of the bag” with a friend of mind, I realized I was angry. More angry than I thought I was. I wondered if I was out of line with this reaction…..
I’ve been fighting to reconcile emotions and thoughts on this particular situation for some time now. I was worried that I may be missing pieces that would clear the picture. I needed a third (and fourth) party perspective. And so, I leaned. I leaned on two incredible people in my life. One who has been a light in my life (during my darkest days) and another who brings me new and interesting perspectives in life that I find enlightening.
I wanted to know their perspective on this raging scenario. What did they see? How would they feel? Interestingly they were both on the same page. And while it brought me comfort, it also brought sadness.
But this entry isn’t about the dark side of this tale. This entry is about the moment when you lean on someone and they are there for you. They may point out your missteps but support you as you self-correct. It’s that special moment when you reach out to someone and they are there.
It is just another reason why surrounding yourself with the right souls is so very important. We all have moments where we need to lean. It’s not always easy to ask for help, but when you do and when someone is there to assist, that is one of the best moments one could ever ask for!
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